If I could eliminate two phrases from the English language they would be: "I just see you as a friend" or "I don't see you that way".
From my own experience women seem to think these phrases are nice ways of saying no when men ask them out. I can't speak for all men but for me these are hurtful words. To me the women might as well be saying "Hanging out with you is cool but dating? I wouldn't be caught dead dating you."
If I had a dime for every time I have heard those words I would probably literally be a rich man by now.
The only dates I have ever been on was with my ex wife and she is the only woman who ever pursued me.
The only time in high school when I ever felt different from the other kids was when I knew it was prom night. I asked a couple of girls to go but heard those phrases for the first of many times. And it was always odd and hurtful the next school day hearing about things that went on at the prom.
And a real date, not one after marrying someone would be a nice experience to have.
I remember a conversation with my Mom when we talked about how I probably wouldn't have a real relationship with a woman until I got older. I think we even talked about it being maybe in my 30's before it would happen. I got married at 26 divorced at 31 and 14 years later I have only had one other relationship and let me tell you a women who is bipolar and not on her medication is not a good situation.
I always thought that by my late 30's I would have found "Mrs. Right" but I haven't found her yet. One of the things that help keep me going and staying positive is that I really don't think it is God's intention for me or anyone to live life alone. I truly do believe there is someone for everyone, even me. It would be nice for the wait not to take too much longer. But who knows.
I just hope that if there is another woman I ask out I hope she just says "no" if she doesn't want to. Because I also believe that "no" is a one word sentence.
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