Wednesday, December 28, 2011

What if???

"Twenty years now, where'd they go?
Twenty years, I don't know"  Bob Seeger "Like a Rock

The holiday season is always a time to reflect for me. I try to to take stock of the year just passed and see if I have grown as a person. I look back at mistakes and look at wherer I could have done differently.

I woke up with the phrase "The road not taken" in my head. Not only was that a great county song by Shenedoah (about 15 years ago) but I sometimes wonder about what might have been.

On a number of occasions over the years I have heard people say they have no regrets about their past and I always wonder how true that is because I know that I do have a couple of regrets.

I wish I hadn't acted like a complete ass around a young woman named Regina Cagle my first try at college. We met in a class and hung around a lot for a couple of weeks. I thought she was going to end up being my girlfriend until I invited her over to my apartment to a little party I was having and I ended up getting drunk and acting the fool. The next day I called her to apologize and was told the she was moving to San Diego with a guy she knew. I doubt the truthfulness of that but I never ever did see her again.  I still can't help but wonder what would have been if I hadn't acted like a drunken fool.

Then in the mid '90's after I knew my marriage was over (surprisingly no regrets there, including getting married, life lesson) a woman I had wanted to be with started hanging out with me a lot and one day asked if I wanted to be her boyfriend.  Every part of my being wanted to say "YES" but for some reason I have never figured out I said no.  I even wanted to call her and apologize after that but I never did. I have tried to look her up since then but I can't seem to find her. I know that means that it was meant to happen that way but I do regret it.

There are a number of other things I wonder how life would have been if I had done things but those are the only two that I regret.

For the most part I know that everything happens for a reason.I truly do know the mistakes have made me who I am and I am still a little rough around the edges but I really like who I am today.

But sometimes I still can't help but wonder "what if?" and "where did all that time go"?

I am thankful I have been allowed to live it, despite my flaws.

Tuesday, December 27, 2011

Random (mostly sports related) thoughts

*That screaming you're about to hear is probably coming from somewhere in Columbus Ohio. But what good is a sister if you can't aggravate her every once in awhile? ;}

 As I am typing this I have the TV on ESPN with the sound down. The sound is off because I absolutely can not stand a female play-by-play announcer. (screaming begins) I am all for equal rights and I believe that most women can do anything a man can do. But I also believe that there are things that should only be done by a man and other things that should be done strictly as a woman.

One of the things I like about sports is that it's away to get away from women for a while.  You don't have to get all touchy feely and get in touch with you feminine side. Sports is about action and testing you mettle against other guys. Man on man, who's the better man on that day. And I don't want to hear a manly voice talking to be about what's going on. I was married once, I know what I'm talking about.

I can tolerate female sideline reporters mainly because most are beautiful and only are heard from a few times during the game. Of course, if it weren't for women like Erin Andrews and Rachael Nichols I probably wouldn't like women sideline reporters at all.   Deep breaths, Lynnette, deep breaths.

*Personally, I would like to see a Denver-New Orleans Super Bowl.  Tim Tebow, the guy most of the "experts" hate versus Drew Brees, the guy the "experts" used to say would never be any good.  Heads would explode.

* I'm getting the feeling that if the NBA players had their way there would only be five teams: the New York Knicks, the New Jersey Nets, Boston Celtics, Los Angeles Lakers, and Miami Heat. Those seem to be the only places free agents want go. I remember 1980's NBA and hated it. Spread the love around, please?

*Speaking of the NBA I wish someone could explain to me how David Stern blocking the Chris Paul trade was a bad thing?  I thought part of the reason for the lock out was that the small market teams wanted to have some competitive balance so that their franchises could survive. I thought that was why Mr Stern blocked it and yet all the "experts" were howling that that he did a terrible thing.

*Maybe I'm becoming a bit jaded but I am having trouble understanding the amount of outrage over Yorvit Torrealba's shoving the umpire in the Venezuelan League. When I first heard about it it figured he decked the umpire because I heard he punched him.  Then I looked at the video and all I saw was a shove to the mask, and it didn't look like it was a hard shove at that. Robbie Alomar spit on an ump and was put into the Hall of Fame. Somethings just don't make sense.

Don't get me wrong touching an umpire in any way and should get a player thrown out of the game and suspended for a few games but the League suspended Torrealba for 66 games. That is too rough of a suspension if you ask me. And I have heard that MLB might suspend him too? He shouldn't be punished for something he did in another league. Sorry but that is just going overboard.

That makes about as much sense as Roger Goodell suspending Terrelle Pryor for what he did at Ohio State. And that makes no sense at all..

But what do I know??

Wednesday, December 21, 2011

My 2011 college football playoff

I posted a blog last year about what I didn't like about the BcS and I came up  with a proposal for how a playoff system could be implemented while still using the four major bowls. I am using a little bit of that blog to help me make my points for a playoff scenario this year. 


One of my longest running pet peeves is that division 1 (or whatever they are calling it now) college football does not have a playoff. Games and seasons are meant to have winners and losers. And I  can't think of another team sport that does not have a playoff.


My main problem with the system we have now is that teams like TCU and Boise State do no thave a chance to win the championship.  And I believe that every season there are teams  who should have a chance. My main problem with the system we have now is that teams lie TCU and Boise State do no thave a chance to win the championship.  And I believe that every season there are teams  who should have a chance. 


There are two reasons I have heard of for why there are no playoffs. The first being that the kids would miss too much school. Which makes sense, except for one thing,: all of the smaller divisions in college football has playoffs.  That has never made sense to me. Are they trying to say that class attendance is more important at the bigger schools?

The second excuse I have heard is that having a playoffs would make the season too long.  And I have also heard that the University Presidents don't want change the current  bowl system because it makes too much money.

I think that I have a solution that would make most everyone who follows college football happy.


 First of all, I don't think that just adding playoff games to the end of the season is the answer.  I think you should start by shortening the regular season.  It seems  to me that the out of conference games that teams are usually paying against are very inferior teams.  Getting rid of those games would not only shorten the season (by about  3 games) but would make more competitive balance.

At the end of the season the top eight teams should go into the playoffs.  All other bowl eligible teams can still go to lesser bowl games as a reward for a good season.  The big four bowls (Rose, Orange, Sugar, Fiesta) could host the first round of the playoffs. Since all four of those games are affiliated with conferences those tie ins should, and I think can for the most part, be maintained. 


I copied and pasted all the previous paragraphs from lasts years draft to help show where my thinking was. Then I looked at the final rankings from the AP poll (which I guess is now FBS), the coaches poll and the BcS rankings.


As I first started to really look at and compare the differences; I realized I should have looked at them before I wrote the BcS hates Boise posting. At a second review of the each poll/ranking I was shocked to find that the BcS was not the worst of the the polls. The AP\FBS had Southern California at #5??? I might understand USC in the top ten (might) but #5 no way.


So this year I am throwing the AP/FBS out of the equation. I have little respect for that ranking and since is my blog, I can to that.


Between the BcS and the coaches poll the only major difference was that the BcS had Arkansas and the Coaches poll had Wisconsin.  Since there are all ready two other SEC teams in the top ten I am throwing Arkansas out of the equation. And I have tweaked the polls basically because I didn't want the Rose bowl to be all Pac 12.


So the first round of my 2011 playoffs would include these games.


Sugar Bowl--  #1 LSU  vs  #8 Wisconsin


Orange Bowl -- #2 Alabama vs #7 Boise St.


Fiesta Bowl-- #3 Oklahoma St. vs #6 Stanford


Rose Bowl-- #4Oregon vs #5 Kansas St.


Personally I like the idea of those four games better than the games that will happen this year.


I would have the final two rounds in Jerry's World...er... Cowboy Stadium over a two week period. With the highest seed playing the lowest for the second round.


I think my idea would be more competitive than what the BcS is going to have this year and would still make college football a boatload of money.


What do you think?  



Monday, December 19, 2011

We need tolerance, open minds and understanding

I saw a posting on FB that without Christ there is no Christmas. My first thought was that maybe at some point that was true. I'd like to think that the world and people have evolved and changed since then. Why do I say this?

Over my lifetime I have met people of many different faiths and beliefs.  I have met many Christians, a number of the Jewish faith, a few Muslims, some Atheists.  I have met people who go to different churches,some who go to Unity and Religious Science come to mind.  One of the smartest men I have ever met studied a spiritual belief I had never heard of before. I have met people who don't believe Christ ever existed, and even a few people who believe that Christ was basically a composite of several different men who lived at that time.

Most if not all of these people seemed to be intelligent, responsible and sane.  Which has helped to show me there is not right path.

The man who I had more respect for than any other man other than my Dad once told me that there is truth in all different beliefs.

And that is what I believe there is truth in all spiritual paths. I have written this before but I think it should be repeated.  I believe there is ONE God who created different paths (religions, spiritual beliefs) to see his truth.

Each of us has our own life journey and path to God.

And in this holiday season, especially in this holiday season. We all need to embrace tolerance with a full open mind and open heart.

We shouldn't be bickering about Christmas vs Happy Holidays.  We should be open minded enough to see that each individual has the right to say, think and act in ways that enhance their live path.

And it just might help our spiritual paths to have open minded, tolerant discussion about why people believe what they do.

Trust me, I have been in heated arguments about which belief is right or wrong. That gets no one anywhere and I believe actually inhibits our lives spiritual journey.

So no matter what you believe or say.  I wish you nothing but the best hopes for you Holiday Season and may the next year bring you more Happiness, Love, Joy and Peace.

As for me I hope you will continue to follow my life path on this blog and I sincerely hope my readership grows. Hey, I'm not just doing to watch myself type. ;}

Saturday, December 17, 2011

BcS committee hates Boise St

I wrote last year about how the BcS stinks and offered a system that I think will work. And I am planning on applying my proposed system to this season, hopefully I will post that on Tuesday.

But I wanted to post a separate blog to talk about once AGAIN the BcS has screwed over Boise State. Fortunately I get to write about two bowl match ups that makes no sense at the same time.

Boise State finished the season at 11-1. Their only loss was to TCU due to the Boise kicker missing a last second field goal.  That particular game was one of the best games I saw all season, In my opinion Boise should have won it. After that loss the BcS voters, in their infinite, "wisdom" down to #11.

Somehow Boise moved up to #8 for the final poll of the season. In my opinion the should have finished in top 5 and maybe should have been # 3. Personally I would have liked to see Boise vs Alabama or Oklahoma St.But their final ranking is not what bothers me.

I have been thinking the BcS bowls were supposed to be for the best teams in the country. But there are two BcS bowl games that have teams that shouldn't be in them. I know that the Orange bowl has an agreement with the ACC to have a team in their bowl game but #12 Clemson doesn't deserve to be in a BcS bowl game. Heck, two of their three losses were against other ACC teams and most of their wins were not that impressive (more on that in a moment).

 Clemson's opponent in the Orange Bowlis #23 West Virginia.  There is no way the Mountaineers should be in this game. NO WAY. Their schedule is not that strong and they didn't have any memorable wins. Boise State should have been considered for this game but it's not the one they should have been put in.

I think that with the bowl's as chosen this year Boise should have been put into the Sugar Bowl against Michigan. I think that particular match up could have been maybe the best bowl game this year. I can't help but wonder if the BcS committee didn't want to put Boise against Michigan because they feared it would upstage their "Championship" game.

Instead of putting Boise St. in the Sugar Bowl the BcS committee put #17 Virginia Tech into this game which is laughable at best and just down right irresponsible in my opinion.  Va Tech is not a bad team but they are not that good either. I understand Clemson getting into the Orange Bowl because the won the ACC but Clemson badly beat Virginia Tech badly in two separate games (3-23 and 10-38).

I have no idea how the BcS can justify putting Virginia Tech into the particular game. To me BcS has  lost more credibility than ever.  It's just a shame that they disrespect Boise as much as they do.




Friday, December 16, 2011

Joe Paterno and this years team

Like most people I want former Penn State Penn State Jerry Sandusky to receive the harshest sentence possible if he is found guilty of child molestation. In fact, short of castration I doubt there is a harsh enough punishment for sexually abusing a child.

But I also believe that firing Coach Paterno in the middle of this season was way too harsh of a punishment. I fully understand people who believe that he should have done more to make law enforcement aware of what was going on. But I have a different point of view about the situation.

I was scared to tell my parents about being sexually molested partially because it involved my Grandfather and I wasn't sure they would believe that he would do something like that. Fortunately, do to other incidents that I was not aware of at the time they fully believed me.

But it could have been different.

I think I can see the situation from Joe Paterno's perspective. From what I have heard Mr Paterno and Sansudusky knew each other, and presumably were friends, for over thirty years.  Think of any longtime friendships you have had; can you see this person as doing something illegal or perverted? I bet most people can't and I bet Mr Paterno couldn't really believe it about Sandusky but did the responsible thing and to the school's President and Athletic Director what he had been told. He then probably thought they would properly deal with the situation. Morally he probably should have done more but I don't blame him I blame the AD and the President.

I do believe it would have been best for everybody to let Mr Paterno to finish the season and then retire. Why?  Because most, if not all, of the kids on the team came to that football program to play for Coach Paterno.  Those kids were nowhere near Penn State when those incidents took place and had done nothing wrong. So why punish them for the University's fault.

A few weeks ago I heard Bill Plaske, on ESPN's  Around the Horn, vehemently proclaim that Penn State should not be allowed to go to a bowl game this year, "even if they win the Big Ten". I believe that all the other panelist disagreed. In fact, Woody Page even suggested that they should be allowed to go to a bowl game but Penn State should give the money they receive for going to a bowl game to a charity that deals with child abuse. Which I think is a perfect solution.


After doing a little research I have found out that Penn State is going  to play in the Ticket City Bowl on January 2 against the Houston Cougars. (Lions vs Cougars, oh my) That should be a good game and I am happy for the kids on that team.

But it's a shame that Joe Paterno's great career ended this way.

Thursday, December 15, 2011

Tebow haters shutup!!!

To me there are lots of signs that this world has gone absolutely crazy. People are "occupying" every where for no apparent reason other than they have nothing else to do--and people seem to be taking them serious. One of the worst Presidents ever may win re-election --basically because the Republicans can't get their collective acts together.  There are actually people who believe the Mayans predicted the end of the world next year because their calender ends on December 31,2012. It couldn't possibly be they couldn't fathom time being longer than that.

And Tim Tebow has been verbally torn to death for no real reason. I have been fortunate enough to watch six of his games with my own eyes. No he is not the greatest ever but he is no where near as bad as the so called "experts" think.

They like to complain about his throwing motion, they like to talk about his completion percentage (48.5), they like to talk about how no team can win while running a spread offense which mainly is run oriented.

Apparently, they are at least, partially blind.  In the games I have watched I only recall seeing 3 passes that have been very bad. Most of the in completions I have seen were pretty accurate.He is not always to blame for the receivers not catching the passes.

As for the complaints about his throwing motion. I keep wondering if the people complaining know that this is not a beauty contest, its  freaking football. All that should really matter is that he is getting good results.

As for the option offense not working. I ask, why can't something different work?

The two main offenders in my opinion are both on ESPN. They are Stephen A Smith and Colin Cowherd. Before this week I had respect for Mr. Smith, I rarely agree with his opinions, but I respected him. Until Tuesday when he appeared on 1st and 10 with Skip Bayless, who seems to be the only journalist who likes Tebow.

Skip made the very valid points that the stats are not the bottom line; he is winning that is the stat that really matters. Mr Tebow has shown that he can be a winning quarterback in the NFL. That is what matters.

Mr Bayless and Mr Smith were asked is Mr Tebow should be Denver's starting QB next season. Mr Bayless gave very valid reason for why Tebow should the starting QB next season. Mr Smith emphatically said no and the only evidence he seemed to come up with was his opinion that Tebow would never be a winning QB in the NFL' despite very concrete evidence that he can and will be a winner

I have never like Mr Cowherd, I think he is just a goofball who says outrageously stupid things just to get attention. And I am not going to detail his low Tebow IQ.

The bottom line is that Tim Tebow has proven he is a winner on the football field and in real life. It is time for the misguided and unfounded hatred of Tebow to end. He is a overall good person and should be admired and praised for who he is and what he does on and off the field.

There are plenty of other players in the NFL to dislike and disrespect.  Ndamaka Suh, and DeSean Jackson are the first names to come to mind.

Tuesday, December 13, 2011

Penn State,Syracuse and the media

One of the biggest thing that has bothered me during this time of a lack of internet connection in the inability to talk about my take on those two child sex scandal cases.

First of all I was molested by a family member who I looked up to at the time. It started around age six and continued until I think I was around 11. I would have done something about it earlier but I truly did not think my  parents would believe me. Fortunately, and thankfully I got up the nerve to tell my Mom and she believed me.

I know the emotional pain and scars you can carry from that trauma. I have been fortunate enough to have people to talk to and deal with it. For a time I actually thought I was through dealing with those feelings.  I don't know the last time I had thought about the abuse before the Penn State scandal broke. For the first couple of days hearing the details was not much of a problem.

But as the media started digging deeper and deeper into the details and the Syracuse case came to light some of the things that happened to me started to bother me again. And them memories started coming back.

I turn the channel whenever they start talking about the case  on TV now.

I can deal with the memories and feeling again, I have done it before.

But I have started to seriously think about some issues. I understand that the media has to report the news about this case.  I know that getting some of the truth out might help someone who is being abused come out and stop what is happening to them. I get that.

But as the details continue to come out I have seriously started to wonder at what point are too many details getting out.  Just two days ago I heard a man being interviewed who (I can't think of a better way to put it) had the same exact moment of knowing when things had gone too far that I did.

Personally, that experience should NEVER should be detailed on national TV.  First, it was told in fairly graphic detail that was too graphic for kids. Secondly, there may be others like me who were strongly reminded of specific details who might not be strong enough to deal with the old feelings and emotions. I honestly hope that no one did harm to themselves after hearing that detail.  I know for me that was the moment I specifically knew I could not hand future stories on the cases.

Another issue that I have been thinking about is with so many details coming out; at what point does it make it impossible to find an impartial jury?  Personally, I think that prosecuting and punishing sick sexual predators is much more important than the public's right to know.

But maybe that's just me. 

Back again

I have believed that when you play--you pay for a long time. Essentially, when you do wrong there are very real consequences to your actions.

A little over a month ago I did something that I shouldn't have done. I allowed someone into my apartment that every instinct I had told me not to let her in.  She stole my Ipod and phone. Shortly after that my old computer went south on me.

I believe that was the universe's way of telling me I was a bad boy. I truly do believe that.

What I still surprises me is that I sometime still do things that I know now to do. I haven't allowed someone I should not have let in my apartment because  I don't trust them in years. I haven't done that specifically because I have had things stolen before. It is a lesson I thought I learned years ago.

I have said a lot of things about get older. Luckily, I don't recall saying/thinking that I was getting wiser.

Hopefully this time the lesson sticks. Because having very limited internet connection stinks.